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FOCUS ON: Rape – Healing After Rape

The following excerpt has been taken from “The Road to Recovery: You & Rape” – created and distributed by the Rape Crisis Cape Town Trust. You can download the complete booklet in English, Afrikaans or isiXhosa, from their website: rapecrisis.org.za


It’s important to realise that the feelings you experience after being raped are a completely natural response to a terrible event. You aren’t going mad, nor are you over-reacting – no matter who tells you so. There’s a good reason why you’re not able to function in your normal way. There may be good reasons why your reactions are quite extreme. Some rape survivors may need professional help but even so, finding your own coping skills and your strengths and inner resources will still be stages you go through along the road to recovery. Although your road may have been steeper and covered by rocks, it is still the same road and it leads to your recovery.

You are also not alone. Many women and men have been raped and know how you feel. Your feelings won’t last forever. If, however, you feel they are lasting far too long, or that you are not able to cope, you should contact a rape counsellor, a social worker or a psychologist to help you by keeping you company, pointing out some of the landmarks and helping you carry some of your burdens.

You may, on the other hand, not experience any of these feelings at all. This does not make you abnormal either. For some people, rape is something they can integrate and understand, and the experience passes quite quickly. They should not be judged for that either. As well as having serious legal and medical consequences, rape impacts the body, the emotions and the mind. You therefore need to pay attention to all three of these levels when working through what has happened to you.

Below we outline some ideas that many rape survivors have found useful. Please note that none of these suggestions are intended to replace the treatment or care suggested to you by a doctor or counsellor. However, these ideas can easily be used together with a doctor’s or counsellor’s recommendations to help with your recovery. All of them are things that you can do for yourself if there’s no one around to help you.


Taking Care of Your Body

Take care of your body by:

  • eating healthy food
  • doing some exercise every day
  • trying to get enough sleep or rest
  • taking care of your personal hygiene
  • attending to the medical risks associated with rape


If you’ve lost your appetite and don’t feel like eating, try to eat small amounts at a time. Then try to eat more often. Eat foods that are good for you and easy to eat and digest, such as soup, toast or yoghurt, and that help the body cope with stress. As women we get bombarded with advice about our diets, and we are not suggesting you go on any kind of diet. There are comfort foods – such as chocolate and fish and chips – that come highly recommended. These foods may comfort you for a time. However, you may find yourself overeating, gaining weight and feeling miserable about that. You might also incur other health problems such as high blood pressure or high blood sugar that could be very damaging in the long term.  In time, it is possible to find the balance between eating healthy food and comforting food.

Rest and Sleep

Rest as much as you can, especially if you are not sleeping well at night. Lie down for 20 minutes in the afternoon, just sit quietly in a chair or put your head down on your desk for a few moments just to be quiet and do nothing for a short while and stop expending energy. However, it is best if you can lie down, as this helps the cortisol (the stress hormone) in your system to recede. One survivor told her counsellor that she used to close the door of her office and lie down on the floor for ten minutes in the afternoon. Do not underestimate the power of a small lie-down or a brief nap.

To help with sleeping problems, try to take a half-hour walk each day if you can – or better still a run. A good, strong sprint can help like nothing else to get your body to process adrenalin. It is also very effective in calming anxiety, a major cause of sleeplessness. You don’t need to run far, for long or even frequently – just enough to tire you out and get your heart to pump strongly for a short burst. Don’t eat, drink or smoke shortly before going to bed, as these are all stimulants, including both tea and coffee. Rooibos tea, hot chocolate or warm milk and honey are more soothing drinks before bedtime. Don’t panic if you can’t sleep – get up and do something for a while such as reading or watching TV, and then try and sleep again later. Wake someone up to talk to if need be, or phone a 24 hour service such as LifeLine or Rape Crisis.

If lack of sleep is making you feel very agitated or exhausted, consider getting a prescription from a doctor for sleeping pills. These pills only start to be addictive if you are taking 10mg a day for longer than two weeks. Some prescribed drugs can be taken for even longer periods quite safely, so don’t worry if you’re taking them for shorter periods. They can be very useful in restoring a regular sleeping pattern, but they can be dangerous if misused. Your doctor should monitor these drugs and their effect on you to help you use them correctly.

Personal Care

Be kind to your body and do things that make you feel cared for and good. For example, if you have a bath, add a generous handful of rock salt, table salt or Epsom salts to the water and soak for at least 20 minutes. A sprig of fresh rosemary or lavender in a bath is also helpful. If you wash in a basin or shower, use coarse salt as a body scrub. All of these things are cleansing and soothing in an emotional as well as physical way, which many survivors feel they need.

Soaking your feet in a basin of warm water or taking a hot water bottle to bed on a cold day can be very comforting. Try and find other things that will comfort your body and that will soothe the rest of you too.

There are also certain forms of exercise such as running, yoga t’ai chi, swimming and dancing that can really help your body cope with stress.

If you are experiencing one or more of the medical consequences of rape and you are taking PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis) medicines, if you are worried about sexually transmitted infections or if you are recovering from injuries, then you need to take care of your health and keep all the appointments you have at the clinic or with your doctor, taking all you medications.

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Caring for Your Emotions

One of the hardest things to do after being raped is to endure the emotional pain and suffering you feel as a consequence. These feelings are very important. They can be the key to your healing, even though they hurt so much that all you want is for them to stop.

Give yourself space and time to feel. Pay attention to your feelings. Trying to push them away could make your healing take longer. Try to express your feelings and share them in some way. Talk about them to your family or friends or write them down somewhere. Many rape survivors add to their pain by trying not to be angry, scared or vulnerable, and by worrying about how they’ll appear to others. The fact is, we all have a right to these emotions and freely expressing them.

Some feelings, such as pain, anger and rage, can be very frightening for us and those around us. Here are a few clear rules that you can follow in order to make it safer to feel them:

  • Do not harm yourself
  • Do not harm anything valuable to you
  • Do not harm other people
  • Do not harm anything valuable to someone else.

The last thing you want is to regret something you have done. If you are worried that you might not be able to stick to these rules and that you could lose control of your emotions, contact a counselor or a doctor. You can even go to your local hospital emergency unit for help. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in experiencing a strong reaction to an extreme situation.

Don’t be afraid of anti-depressant medicines. They are tools to help you – no more and no less. As with everything, gain as much information as possible in order to help you make the best decision.

If you have laid charges, get people who know about the criminal justice system to help you with your legal case, especially the trial and testifying in court. Also stay in touch with your investigating officer and follow up on the progress of your case month by month. The more you know about these processes and procedures, the better you will manage the role you are required to play. Try to tell people what you’re going through. People like to feel needed, even just as listeners. If you don’t want any advice, be sure to let them know that. Cry if you have to. And, most of all, if there is something to laugh at, laugh. There is nothing better than laughter for healing. You can recover, you can even become stronger than you were before, now that you have survived being raped – and recovered.


Looking After Your Mind

Many rape survivors have found that positive thinking helped their healing process. It may require deliberate effort on your part to stop self-criticism and negative or frightening thoughts. In order to transform your thoughts, it can be helpful to list negative thoughts you are having and then to try to rephrase them positively (for example: “no matter what I do, I’ll never be able to overcome this.” Reframe it to: “Although this is difficult, I can find peace and be restored to my former self.”). This exercise does take some time, as it is difficult to reframe thoughts when you are feeling bad. Just keep trying until you find a way.

This may seem like a pointless exercise but the fact is that writing something down and deliberately trying to change the tone of your thoughts can have a lasting effect over time, even if it doesn’t have an immediate effect. The goal is not to cheer you up. The goal is rather to shift your pattern of thinking, creating a small foothold for a greater healing process. You won’t be able to do this until you are ready, so if you cannot do it yet, just move on and try again a few weeks later. It is a way of helping to shut down your feeling brain and boosting the power of your thinking brain, so that they begin talking to one another again.

Educate yourself. Recovery from rape is about making your own decisions, and the best way to do so is to learn as much as you can and be as well informed as possible about the medical, legal and emotional aspects of rape.

Remember your faith in life. This can be a religious faith, your own spiritual beliefs about life or your personal philosophy. Your experience of being raped could challenge this faith, or your faith could be a powerful source of support to you. Go to those who have helped you keep faith in life before, read the things that previously helped you and go to the places that help you keep your faith. Prayer and meditation, spending time in nature, listening to hymns and sacred music, or reading the Bible or other religious books can all be very helpful. Remember that you are not alone. Join or form a support group and meet other survivors. You’ll be able to help them and in turn get help from them. In this country, with its high rape statistics, it is very possible that someone you know has been raped and will understand a part or all of what you are going through.


Growth Through Recovery

There are certain tasks you can perform to increase your recovery. A trained counsellor could certainly be of great help to you in doing so.

A word of caution: it is important not to see this as some kind of a standard. If you don’t feel like helping yourself, then you are not ready to and it would be pointless to try. If you want to, this would be a good time to see a rape counsellor who could help you, but even that is something that takes courage and you should try it only when and if you feel ready to do so. Remember: there is no one way to recover; you will find a way that is uniquely yours.

Phases of Growth and Recovery

There are three phases to recovery from trauma (Harney & Harvey, 1997), namely:

  1. Restoring safety
  2. Remembering and mourning
  3. Reconnecting with others

In the first phase your main tasks are to make sure you feel safe again. You need to do whatever you can to ensure your bodily and physical safety and then you need to do whatever you can to make sure your environment is safe. So, for example, if you are struggling with alcohol abuse and you live with people who behave violently, that will be the most important thing you have to deal with before you can recover from rape. Drinking less when you feel like drinking more and finding a safer place to live become the priority tasks of your recovery. You need to take care of yourself and your body, mind and emotions. If you make yourself the priority and think carefully about what safety means to you and what you can do to feel even safer, you will go a long way towards your own recovery.

Once you feel safe enough to stop and take a look at what happened to you, the tasks in the second phase are to go back and remember and talk about the rape. Once you can do that, you will also go back to the way it made you feel. Sharing that with someone you trust can help you make sense of it. If you have no one to talk to in that way, you can write about it in a diary or notebook. Telling the story and finding new ways of seeing the rape encounter are very important. Each time you tell the story you will see something about it that you did not see before. You will even begin to notice a change in how you are reacting, compared with a few weeks ago. As the pain becomes more and more bearable, you will see how your priorities change and you can begin to focus on other things. One thing you may begin to see now is that while you may never go back to being the same as you were before the rape that is not really the goal. The goal is to be different, to have been affected by the change – perhaps you will now begin to see that you can be more than you were before. Take your time and go at your own pace here.

The task of the third phase is to seek out and connect with the world beyond your own thoughts and feelings. You need to find new meaning in a world that is both safe and unsafe, that contains both people who wish to help you and people who mean you harm, a world that both influences you and is influenced by you. This last point is important, because the trauma of rape makes you and those close to you feel very helpless. And yet you have by this stage done so much to restore your sense of control over your life. You can learn to be hopeful about the future, strange as that might seem, and you can learn to value the changes in your life even though they have come about through suffering.


For information on healing and recovering from  rape please visit the Rape Crisis Cape Town Trust website at: http://rapecrisis.org.za/ – alternatively download “The Road to Recovery: You & Rape” booklet from http://rapecrisis.org.za/rape-in-south-africa/you-rape-booklet/


Rape Crisis Cape Town Trust. (2011). Healing. In The Road to Recovery: You and Rape (pp. 53 – 59). [Online available from: http://rapecrisis.org.za/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/you-and-rape-booklet-english.pdf [Accessed: 21 July 2015].

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FOCUS ON: Anger Management – Tips & Strategies

Anger issues and how we deal with anger can often be traced back to what we experienced and learned as children. If you grew up in a family that screams at each other, throws things or hits each other, you might believe that this is an acceptable and normal way of expressing anger. 

Ways of Dealing with Anger

There are three main ways of dealing with anger:

  1. Expression – this involves conveying your anger to the other person. Expression can range from a rational and reasonable conversation to a violent, ranting outburst.
  2. Suppression – this involves holding your anger in and either not outwardly expressing it at all or trying to convert it into a more constructive and acceptable emotion or behaviour. Suppression can be destructive though and can result in turning your anger inwards on yourself. Nothing, especially anger, can be suppressed forever, it will eventually come out in one form or another.
  3. Remaining calm – this involves controlling your outward expression of anger (i.e. your behaviour) as well as your internal responses by calming yourself and letting the emotion subside.

The most helpful and healthy form of dealing with anger is through constructive expression, this refers to expressing your concerns, feelings and needs clearly and directly, without hurting yourself or others or trying to manipulate or control them.

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Tips for Taming your Temper 

1. Examine what’s behind your anger 

Often (not always) anger is a cover up for other feelings. When struggling with anger, which may be inappropriate to the situation, stop and ask yourself: “Am I really angry? Or is this something else?” Anger can present itself in place of other feelings such as hurt, shame, insecurity, vulnerability, or embarrassment.

Anger can often be triggered by what we “think” has happened – a person being  inconsiderate or finding yourself in a frustrating situation. The anger you are experiencing however has little to do with what has actually happened to you than how you have interpreted the situation. Negative thinking patterns can trigger and fuel anger.

Common negative thinking patterns:

  • overgeneralising – examples: “You never listen to me.”, “You always take his side.”, “Everyone thinks I’m always wrong.”
  • mind reading / jumping to conclusions – assuming that you know what another person is thinking or feeling i.e. that a person deliberately did something, knowing that it would upset you.
  • collecting straws – looking for and focusing on things that upset you, ignoring or minimising any positives. Allowing small irritations to build until you reach your limit (“the final straw”) and you explode.
  • shoulds and musts – having a rigid idea of how things should or must be and then getting upset when reality does not match up to this vision.
  • blaming – nothing is ever your fault, you blame others for things that happen to you, never taking responsibility for your life.

2. Take note of your anger triggers & warning signs

It may feel as if you have no control over your anger, that it just explodes from within you without any warning; but this is not true, your body gives you signals which you need to become aware of.

Anger is an innate (natural, intuitive) response to a perceived threat, it triggers the “fight or flight” response in us. Thus, the angrier you get, the more your body responds and gets ready to fight or run. By becoming familiar with your own warning signs when your temper starts getting the better of you, you are allowing yourself the time and space in which to take the necessary steps to keep you anger in check.

Physical signs to pay attention to:

  • stomach turns into knots / butterflies
  • pounding heart
  • clenching of your fists and / or jaw
  • tension in your shoulders
  • feeling clammy (sweaty) or flushed
  • breathing faster
  • headaches
  • pacing, needing to walk around, agitated fidgeting
  • trouble concentrating

Something else to consider is avoiding places, situations and people who may trigger your irritability or anger. Stress inducing people, events and situations are no excuse for poor anger management. Get to know and understand the types of environments and people who trip your anger switch e.g. 5 o’clock bumper-to-bumper traffic; the friend who knows it all, has seen it all and done it all. Brainstorm ideas around how to either avoid these triggers or deal with them differently so that it doesn’t turn into a stressful, irritating situation for you.

3. Learn to calm down

Once you’ve identified your triggers and warning signs, the next step is to deal with your rising anger before it boils over. There are a variety of strategies that can help you keep your cool and anger in place.

Cooling down strategies:

  • slowly count to 10 – this sounds ridiculous but it does work. Focus on the counting and allow your rational mind to catch up with your running wild emotions. If you’re still feeling like your about to explode by the time you’ve reached ten, start counting again. Repeat as many times as it takes for you to calm down.
  • take a deep breath – deep, slow breathing is a form of relaxation and counteracts increasing tension in the body. When you are angry your breathing rate increases and becomes shallow – part of the “fight or flight” response. By slowing down your breathing and breathing deeply you are telling your body to “stand down” and relax.
  • exercise – a brisk walk or jog helps to release pent up energy and tension, it may also remove you from the situation which is causing the stress and anger thus giving you time to clear your head and cool off.
  • focus on the physical signs of anger – by turning your attention to how your body is reacting and feeling, the tension may dissipate and the intensity of your anger may pass.

It may also help to stop for a moment and put things into perspective – ask yourself the following questions:

  • how important is this in the greater scheme of things?
  • is it really worth getting this upset about?
  • is my response appropriate to the situation?
  • is there anything I can do about it?
  • is this a good use of my time and energy?

4. Find healthy ways of expressing yourself

If you feel that the situation is worth getting upset about and that you are able to make a difference because of it, you need to know how to express your feelings in a healthy, positive way.

Know what you are angry about

Often big arguments happen over small things – the problem here is that there is usually a bigger issue, that has been brewing for some time and the “small”, unrelated thing has triggered your anger. If you find yourself in this situation or where you can feel your anger snowballing into something bigger, stop and ask yourself “What am I really angry about?” By identifying the real source of your anger, you will be able to communicate what your frustration is about and hopefully in a more constructive expressive manner.

Take a time-out

If you feel your anger is spiralling out of control, it’s best to remove yourself from the situation until you’ve calmed down enough to continue the discussion calmly and constructively. This may mean leaving the room or house, going for a walk, doing some chores or running an errand.

Use “I” statements

Don’t get caught in a blaming contest – always use “I” statements to describe the problem and remember to be respectful and specific e.g. “I am upset that you left the majority of the assignment for me to answer and type up” instead of “You always let me down, you never pull your weight or do your share of the work.

Keep it clean

There are going to be times when an argument cannot be avoided, it is then that you need to remember to fight fair. By keeping an argument “clean” and fair you will be more likely to get your point across in a clear and respectful manner.

  • focus on the present – don’t bringing up past grievances and transgressions, keep the focus of the argument on the current problem rather than confusing things and assigning blame.
  • winning is not everything – maintaining and working on the relationship should be your main priority when arguing, not “winning” or “being right”. Be respectful of the other persons opinion and standpoint.
  • pick your battles – conflict and arguing can be soul destroying and draining, you need to decide whether the issue is really important enough for you to invest your time and energy arguing over it.
  • know when to let it go – it takes two people to have an argument, if there is no end in sight or an agreement is not possible, agree to disagree, disengage and walk away.
  • learn to forgive – conflict resolution is impossible without forgiveness. To reach a resolution means to stop seeking to punish the other party. If you cannot let go and forgive there is no resolution and the argument will continue be it in a day, a month or a years time.

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American Psychological Association. (2015). Controlling Anger Before it Controls You. Retrieved from: http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx [Accessed on: 19 April 2015].

Mayo Clinic. (2014). Anger Management: 10 Tips to Tame your Temper. Retrieved from: http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434 [Accessed on: 19 April 2015].

Segal, R. & Smith, M. (2014). Anger Management: Tips & Techniques for Getting Anger Under Control. Retrieved from: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/emotional-health/anger-management.htm [Accessed on: 19 April 2015].

FOCUS ON: ADD / ADHD – Ways of Managing Adult ADD / ADHD

Adult ADD/ADHD comes with a myriad of challenging symptoms, ranging from extreme procrastination to impulsive behaviour, all of which can have a devastating impact on the person’s life and relationships. 


However, it isn’t all doom and gloom – there are skills a person can learn which can go a long way to helping curb the symptoms and negative impact of ADD/ADHD.

Myths about Self-Help for Adult ADD/ADHD

Myth: Medication is the only way to solve ADD/ADHD

Fact: Medication can help some people manage the symptoms of ADD/ADHD, it is not a cure, nor the only solution. If used at all, medication should be taken in combination with other treatments or self-help strategies.

Myth: Having ADD/ADHD means you are lazy or unintelligent, so you won’t be able to help yourself

Fact: The effects of ADD/ADHD may result in you and others labelling you as “lazy” or “unintelligent”, but this is not at all true. Essentially what you have is a chemical problem which effects the management systems of your brain, thus making it difficult for you to function normally.

Myth: A doctor can solve all my ADD/ADHD problems

Fact: Doctors can help you manage the symptoms of your ADD/ADHD but there is no “cure” and there is only so much a doctor and medication can do. Because you are the one living with the problems brought on by the condition, it is largely up to you to work at and find ways of overcoming them.


 Segal, R. & Smith, M. (2014). Help for Adult ADD/ADHD – Tips for Managing Symptoms and Getting Focused. Retrieved from: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/add-adhd/adult-adhd-attention-deficit-disorder-self-help.htm [Accessed on: 25 February 2015].


Self-Help Tips for Adults with ADD/ADHD

Getting Organised & Controlling Clutter 

Perhaps one of the biggest challenges faced by adults with ADD/ADHD is getting their inattention and distractibility under control. The mere thought of getting organised, be it at home, college or work, can be overwhelming.

However, by learning to break tasks down into small, manageable steps and following a systematic approach, organisation can be achieved.

1. Develop & maintain structure & neat habits

  • Create space – ask yourself what you need on a daily basis, and then pack away all the things you don’t need either in a cupboard or storage area. Designate specific areas for specific things e.g. a hook next to the front door for your keys, a specific drawer just for bills etc.
  • Use a daily planner or calendar app – the proper and diligent use of a daily planner, desk calendar or calendar app on your smart phone / tablet can be a great help with remembering appointments, lecture times, assessment due dates etc.
  • “To Do” lists – drawing up “to do” lists is a useful way of keeping track of things including regular tasks, appointments, deadlines etc. for a particular day or week. If you are already making use of a daily planner either add a “to do” list column to each day or keep your “to do” list in the planner. There are also a variety of free “to do” apps available for both Android and Apple devices.
  • Do it now – one way of avoiding forgetfulness, clutter, and procrastination is by doing things right away rather than leaving them for “later”. If a task can be done in two minutes or less (making a phone call, answering an e-mail, putting a load of washing in, packing away stuff) then do it now, instead of putting it off.

2. Get your paperwork under control

  • Set up filing systemuse colour coded dividers or separate files for different document i.e. your lecture notes. By labelling and using a colour coding system you will be able to find what you are looking for easily.
  • Get filing – set aside a few minutes each day (or if that is asking too much, half an hour once a week) and sort out your filing.

 Managing your Time & Staying on Schedule 

Poor time management is a common symptom of adult ADD/ADHD. This includes losing track of time, missing due dates and deadlines, procrastinating, underestimating the amount of time needed for a task, or doing things in the wrong order. Another common problem for many ADD/ADHD sufferes is spending too much time on a single task (hyper-focusing) to the extent that nothing else gets done.

Below are some tips to help with managing your time and prioritising what needs to get done first.

1. Time Management Tips

  • Become a clock watcher – use a wrist watch, cell phone clock, desk clock or any highly visible clock to help you keep track of time. When starting task, make a note of the time by writing it down somewhere you can see it.
  • Use timers – allocate yourself a limited amount of time for each task you need to attend to and use a timer or alarm to alert you when your time is up. For longer tasks, set an alarm that goes off at regular intervals so as to help keep you productive and aware of how much time you have left.
  • Give yourself more time than you need – adults with ADD/ADHD often have difficulty with estimating how much time they will need to complete a task. For every thirty minutes you think it will take to get somewhere or to complete a task, add an additional ten minutes.
  • Plan to be early – write down appointments for 15 minutes earlier than they are i.e. if you have an appointment for 09h30, put it in your diary for 09h15. Set alarms / reminders to ensure that you leave on time and prepare everything you need to take with you ahead of time (books, keys, notes etc.) so that you don’t waste time getting your stuff together when you should already be on your way.

2. Prioritising Tips

Adults with ADD/ADHD often struggle with impulse control (impulsivity) and are prone to jumping from one task or idea to another, without completing what they were originally working on. Completing tasks, especially large projects, can be challenging.

  • Decide on what needs to be done first – ask yourself: “what is the most important task that needs to be completed?” (note: the question is: “What is importantnotWhat is the easiest / more fun to do“). Rank your tasks in order of importance and then set up a schedule whereby you address them in order, from most down to least important.
  • Do things one step at a time – big tasks can be overwhelming, break them down into smaller, manageable steps.
  • Don’t get sidetracked – stick to your schedule and use your timers to keep you focused and on task.

3. Learn to say “No”

Because adults with ADD/ADHD tend to be impulsive, they often end up agreeing to too many things resulting in their schedule overflowing with work and social commitments. This in turn leads to them feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope with everything that is being asked of them.

Turning things down and saying “no” will help you to improve your ability to complete tasks on time, keep your social life alive, and live a healthier (and hopefully less stressed) lifestyle. Before responding to an invitation or committing to a new project, check your schedule first.

 Staying Focused & Productive

1. Get rid of distractions

  • Where you study / work matters – if you don’t have your own room, consider making use of an empty lecture room or the library to get your work done during the day, while you are on campus. When attending lectures, sit close to the lecturer and away from people / friends who chat and distract you.
  • Minimize external distractions – face your desk against a wall and keep it free of clutter or anything that may distract you. If necessary, keep your door closed and place a “do not disturb” sign on it. You may also want to consider putting your phone on silent so that you cannot be disturbed by incoming calls / SMS’s / Whatsapp etc. If you like to listen to music while you work opt for music with no singing or words – it will help keep you focused on what you are doing, rather than singing along to your favourite song.

2. Stretch your attention span

  • Take notes – during lectures, this will help you focus on what the lecturer is saying.
  • Repeat directions – if you are given verbal instructions or directions, repeat them out aloud to make sure you got them right.
  • Move – to deal with restlessness and fidgeting, move around – obviously don’t do this unless the timing and place is appropriate and you are not disturbing those around you e.g. between lectures, if the lecturer gives you 5 minute comfort break during a 2 hour session etc.

 Managing Stress 

Symptoms such as: lack of attention, being easily distracted and hyperactivity are often made worse by lack of sleep, unhealthy eating habits and inactivity (too little exercise). The following tips are aimed at helping you set up regular routines which will aid in keeping you calm, reduce anxiety and avoid mood swings.

1. Exercise

Exercise is the healthiest and easiest way of addressing hyperactivity and inattentiveness. Exercise relieves stress, calms the mind and boosts your mood.

  • exercise daily
  • choose something vigorous and that interests you
  • exercise outdoors whenever possible – this will feed your need for visual stimulation and thus help keep you focused on what you are doing
  • consider relaxation exercises such as yoga, meditation, tai chi, which will teach you greater self-control and concentration

2. Get enough sleep

Sleep deprivation can aggravate ADD/ADHD symptoms, thus reducing your ability to focus and cope during the day.

  • avoid caffeine after 3pm
  • exercise regularly and vigorously but not one hour before going to bed
  • create a predictable and calming bed time routine
  • take a warm shower or bath before going to bed
  • stick to a regular sleeping and waking schedule

3. Watch what you eat

  • eat small, healthy meals throughout the day
  • avoid sugar as much as possible
  • eat fewer carbohydrates and increase your protein intake


*The information contained in this post is for informative purposes only and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment. 


Segal, R. & Smith, M. (2014). Help for Adult ADD/ADHD – Tips for Management Symptoms and Getting Focused. Retrieved from: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/add-adhd/adult-adhd-attention-deficit-disorder-self-help.htm [Accessed on: 25 February 2015].

Marijuana: How to Stop Using

Giving up marijuana can be difficult, particularly for the chronic, daily user. In order to successfully stop using, you will need to educate yourself so that you’ll know what to expect and be prepared to deal with any issues should they arise.


The Decision to Stop Using:

Without being personally motivated, the chances of you being able to successfully stop using marijuana are low. The decision to stop using has to be yours…not your partners or your parents.

Withdrawal symptoms are experienced when a person stops habitually using a drug – they occur because the person has developed a physical dependency on the drug. Daily use of marijuana can lead to physical dependency and as such marijuana users will experience withdrawal symptoms when they either stop or reduce their marijuana intake.

How Long?:

The time it will take to fully withdraw from marijuana is dependent on the individual and their history of use. The longer you’ve been using, the longer it will take to withdraw.

Following your last use of marijuana, you can expect to start experiencing withdrawal symptoms within a 1 – 3 days and they can last for anything from a week to a month.

Is it safe?:

Unlike other drugs, marijuana does not typically have any dangerous withdrawal symptoms – that is not to say that it is going to be easy and without discomfort. Withdrawal does not necessarily require any specialised treatment but it may be helpful to have the guidance of an addiction specialist so as to minimize the chances of relapse and equip you to cope with the withdrawal symptoms.

Withdrawal Symptoms:

You will most likely experience a number of different withdrawal symptoms when you stop using marijuana. The most common symptoms include:

  • headaches
  • drug cravings
  • anxiety
  • decreased appetite
  • irritability
  • insomnia
  • restlessness
  • nausea

Easing Withdrawal Symptoms:

Most of the withdrawal symptoms related to the withdrawal from marijuana use can be treated at home with every day, over-the-counter medication as well as a few changes in routine and habits.

  • Headaches can be treated with use of standard pain or headache medication
  • Nausea can be treated with over-the-counter stomach medication
  • Anxiety, restlessness, irritability and insomnia can be addressed by: decreasing your caffeine intake, increasing or starting a regular exercise routine and, learning basic breathing and relaxation exercises

Best Practice:

There is no “best way” to withdraw from marijuana. Past users do however advise that it is easier to gradually wean yourself off using the drug by reducing the amount used each day over a period of a couple of weeks. This method is often more successful than going “cold turkey” and stopping all use at once.

Those who are trying to quit are also advised to get rid of all of their marijuana and accompanying paraphernalia once they have decided to quit – this includes pipes, bongs etc; to surround themselves with non-users and; to try keep busy and active, this will help with cravings and temptation.

Although safety is not usually an issue when withdrawing from marijuana use, it is helpful to under go withdrawal with some form of addiction or medical support as this will decrease the chances of relapse and you will have the help you need should something go wrong.

Exposure to marijuana has physical, biological, mental, behavioural and social consequences. The decision whether or not to use marijuana will always be a personal one. 

Please refer to the Policies page of this blog for BMH’s Student Policy on the Possession, Use and Distribution of Illicit Substances (including marijuana).

Adapted from:

Motivation to stop smoking weed – Addictionblog.org and How to withdraw from marijuana – Addictionblog.org